Canada vs. USA

Over the last few days, I have pondered this question, without any answers to it. Part of me would like to keep my children where we are, just for the simple fact that they are adjusted to living here and have friends here. The other part of me wants to move back to Canada. Immigration issues being what they are, and they are legally allowed to be here, (somewhat), it just makes more sense to move back.

My ex, God love him, refuses to be of assistance in getting them registered with the US embassy in Canada, closest to where they were born, so that leaves me stuck. I can't force him to go with my to Canada and do this, (I might add he is here in the US, not working, not supporting his kids, financially or emotionally, doing absolutely nothing), even though this would benefit our children.

I get that he is angry, bitter, or whatever psychological babble you want to put on it, but in my book that does not give him the right to take these issues out on our children.

I don't hate him, as I have said before, but at this moment I am irritated with him and his inability to be an adult and communicate. Or at least do what is in the best interest of our children. Last time I checked I did not create them alone, but then again maybe I did. Maybe he was there physically for the act (duh) but not there emotionally or in any other capacity other than physical. Regardless, I don't feel that I should be the only one responsible for them. But what can I do? Nothing. I can do nothing. I have taken custody away, he helped after all by not responding to the custody papers and that is all I can do.

It bothers me that we can not be adults and talk to each other like we used to about our children. At one time this was extremely important to the both of us, and still is to me. I know divorce changes your relationship and it is suppose to, but at the end of the day we are still parents of the same children. Just like we were before we got divorced. I guess I am done ranting for the day.

Until next time....