Have I mentioned the Ice Princess? I think I have, but I'd have to look back. Here is a great lesson (and boy did it hit home tonight), on how words actually DO hurt, and they do have an effect on the person we use them on.
So by my own family, a few friends and my ex-husband (who I might add was not an ex at the time) I have been called The Ice Princess (My ex), a B**** , cold, mean and the list could go on. Oh and let's not forget heartless.
I, personally, never felt I was any of those things. I want to cry when I run over a bird or a squirrel (which I have only done once), I hate hurting people's feelings and try to make everything OK. I dislike it when people argue, I hate fighting and believe it or not I am a pretty sensitive person, I thought.
I know we have all heard the childhood song, "Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me". Well guess what not only can the words people speak over us hurt us, they can become imprinted on our personality and we take them to heart and make them apart of us. We carry them with us where ever we go. Words hurt, words describe, words become who we are. Not only do words hurt, silence hurts more and it hurts those we are silent with.
Tonight I realized how much I have taken the words to heart and I am pretty closed off emotionally. At a moment when I should have (an I was on the inside), been filled with Awe, and amazement, I froze. I literally had no response. I was quiet and distant. The Ice Princess lives. I, thought recent events proved I had a heart and that I was actually capable of feeling, but when it counted, when I needed to show some sign that a human being with real emotion was present, it was absent. When it mattered the most, I couldn't even shed one tear, I couldn't convey what was going through my mind, and what did come out made sense to only me.
As I said, word do hurt and they do affect the person you use them against. Word are the sharpest weapon we have an leave the biggest mark on a person's identity. Be careful how you use this weapon, and on who you use it against. Finally, don't let others label you, don't let their words define who you are. If you acknowledge that you are not those things, you won't be those things. Don't take them to heart, don't let them pierce you. God made you and He made you perfect in His image. God doesn't define us in negative terms, He loves us and defines us in His goodness.
Until the next Scribble.......
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